It's a great example of a specifric philosophy I share with William Glasser
"Learning is serious, but that doesn't mean it has to be grim."
First thing, first day! Gather your students into a circle. My preference (if it is possible) is to gather on a large rug. I always purchase a 12' x 18' piece of inexpensive carpet from a roll at Home Depot. If you don't have a rug, the floor will do, or just arrange desks into a circle.
Don't say anything, just take out a roll of toilet paper, tear off a length with about 10 pieces, hand the roll of toilet paper to the student sitting next to you, and just say, "Take what you need."
Of course, the students will be surprised/shocked. But don't say anything. Let each student take as much or as little as they want, then pass it to the next student.
After all students have had an opportunity to take some toilet paper (it's possible that one or two students won't take any because they aren't sure just what this is about) you can explain to them what you're doing. Say that for each square of toilet paper they have taken they will now share something about themselves with the class. This is a "getting to know you" activity. No one is required to say anything. Demonstrate the type of information you'd like them to share by modeling - you go first. I always give the students my first and last name; I am emphasizing that I am a person. So, for example, I may say . . .
[Tearing off Square 1] - My name is Anne Shaw.
[Tearing off Square 2] - I live in Austin, Texas.
[Tearing off Square 3] - I have three children, all grown, and five grandchildren, ages 2 to 10.
[Tearing off Square 4] - I love to cook (and eat!). I especially like enchiladas (and fried chicken and mashed potatoes.)
[Tearing off Square 5] - I used to live in Pensacola, Florida, and my favorite thing about that (next to living near and spending time with two of my grandchildren) was watching the Blue Angels flying around every day.
[Tearing off Square 6] - My husband and I just spent a fantastic week in Turkey!
[Tearing off Square 7] - We are going to New Delhi, India and Shanghai, China in September. I want to, among many other things, bring home beautiful saris for all the women in our family!
[Tearing off Square 8] - During the last 2-3 year I have become very interested in environmental studies in education - from building sustainable school buildings (or living buildings) to school gardens.
[Tearing off Square 9] - I am super excited about a new global, collaborative classrooms project we are developing called Food and Culture! See possible Issues and Themes here.
Now, allow each student to do the same. The point of my modeling this first is to prevent everyone from saying the least amount of information possible and to get them to provide information that provides the rest of us with insight to who they really are - really unique, specific information.
Usually, not only do we have one or two students who opt out, we usually also have one or two (I refer to them as the 'funny guys") who start rolling it out, and end up with a huge pile of toilet paper. This happens in workshops with teachers as well, and it's always a big laugh for everyone when I tell them that for each square they have to tell us something about themselves. In short, it's a lot of fun, and the best way I know to begin creating real community immediately.
After everyone has had their turn I explain to them that we are a team, a community, and that we are all there to support, teach each other, and learn from each other. We build on this community every single day of the school year - first thing every day.
We do not do the toilet paper every day, but usually on the second day of school the students who did not opt to participate on day one ask if we can do it again. We do, and then everyone is much more relaxed, sharing and open. It only takes a few minutes, and it's worth every second.
Thereafter, we just have regular "rug talks" to start the day. Not everyone goes around the circle and says something every day. We just allow anyone who wishes to share something the chance to do so. Sometimes it is something like, "We had spaghetti at grandma's house last night." Or, "We went to the county fair last night." And sometimes it is quite serious.
One day in early Spring I realized just how strong and profound our community was. A mother came to me before school; I was outside on playground duty. She had tears streaming down her face. Her ex-husband (the father of one of my students) had died during the night, unexpectedly, due to an epileptic seizure. Of course they offered, and expected, the little girl to stay home from school, but she insisted on being there with us. And when we began the day with our regular "rug talk" she asked me to tell the group what had happened. When I did, she let out this huge sob from deep inside her soul.
That was a powerful learning experience for all of us. We were a true community. In true communities of learners (including teachers) a support system is built in which we can share not only tragedies, but triumphs, bits of joy or fun from daily life. And from within that context, the Emotional Environment, we are safe to take risks, to grow and develop into our true selves.